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On Surviving Divorce “Successfully”

July 11, 2013 By Mike Farag 1 Comment

I often get asked, “How did you survive your divorce? You seem to really be happy now.”

One friend even confided in me years after my divorce, “I like you a lot more now.”

The answer is pretty simple:

I finally started relying on Christ more than I relied on myself – at least most days.

It didn’t happen overnight, however there’s something powerful about hitting your knees and really asking for Him to lead you. He will do it. It’s crazy.

We can argue about what it means to “survive” or what it means to be “happy”. All I can tell you is that when I began to listen, He began to provide – a whole new career, true healing, time, renewed passion for life, a perfect woman. Sounds good right?! Trust me I couldn’t have planned this.

To be sure, there are still times when the scars resurface. Most of the time it’s when I begin to add too much of me and not enough of God in my life; when I read the Word less; when I am off on my own thing. That’s when it’s the most difficult.

Come to think of it, this is true no matter if you are divorced or not. It just happens to be my story.

One thing that I would like to add about getting through a divorce is that if you are in the process of planning to get married, you might want to consider researching whether a prenuptial agreement might be right for you. One of my friends is currently in the early stages of getting a divorce, and although he is of course sad that his marriage has come to an end, taking out a prenuptial agreement has made the process of dividing his assets with his former wife so much easier.

Put simply, a prenuptial agreement is a document that couples can choose to sign before they get married. In short, this document outlines how property and assets should be divided if the relationship ends in divorce. A prenup can include anything from cash sums to intellectual property rights and shares. You can learn more about the benefits of putting a prenup in place by contacting a team of Los Angeles prenup attorneys or a team of family law specialists in your area.

Have you ever been through a divorce? If so, feel free to share your story below. Getting a divorce is not always going to be easy, but it is important to remember that you do not need to suffer in silence.

Filed Under: Advice That Matters, Divorce Tagged With: Advice, Divorce, Do Something, listeing, marriage, Mike Farag, Reflection

Give A Little, Take a Little

June 14, 2013 By Mike Farag Leave a Comment

Weddings are fun, such possibility.  Such hope, so much promise an inspired life.  That’s the easy part.

A long happy marriage isn’t easy.  It seems to be a rarity these days.

This past week I attended the 50th wedding anniversary of some distant family (whom I’d never met).

I asked Jack, who was celebrating 50 years of marriage, a few questions about his marriage; was he happy and how can anyone else accomplish such a feat?  Having been divorced, I am acutely aware that 50 years is no small task. And 50 years of being happy isn’t a real goal.  But how to weather those years and strive for happiness is worth exploration for us all.

Jack said this; “Let God lead” and “Give a little, take a little”. I mulled this over for more and journaled about it.  Here is what I managed to pull from someone who is bucking the trends;

  1. First, we need to have faith to make it. The stats show that almost as many Christians get divorced as anyone else.  We can’t let this stand guys. However, almost is a bit better than the same but let’s strive for a wider gap.
  2. Second, it takes real working together to make it. If you are counting on your spouse to make you happy, think again.  See #1 again and if that’s still not enough ask your self this question, what did your vows say? “Better or worse”? Why is that?
  3. We have to really set practices in place to help ourselves be successful in marriage just like we do for our business/career (i.e. yearly counseling checkups, doing activities together besides watching TV, reading books together, challenging each other to be better, etc..).  It won’t happen magically.

It’s not rocket science.  It’s methodic.  It’s intentionality. Working for 50 years takes effort on our part.

I’m working to “give a little and take a little” and letting “God lead” in my own marriage.

Mike & Kim
 
 photo credit: Photos Edge

 

 

Filed Under: Advice That Matters, Change, Featured Tagged With: Advice, Learn Something New, listeing, marriage, Mike Farag

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